Sometimes I get bogged down by the details and challenges of parenting. The lists, the chores, the constant need for distraction and redirection. But now and then there are simply beautiful moments that pull me back to remembering the absolute blessing of parenthood.
Like the other day I saw the sweetest scene. My two year old was “reading” a book (which he had memorized) to my 4 year old – sitting on the stool I regularly use to read to him.
Don’t these kind of moments just melt your heart? They are the moments I realize, “Hey I’m doing okay. I should be thankful my kids are alive, they are healthy, they are learning, and they are feeling and showing love. Sure my house looks like a tornado has blown through, we have no fruit or milk in the house, and I haven’t even taken a shower and it’s 2pm… but it’s really going to be okay.”
When I try to remember to recognize the small acts of kindness I see throughout the day, and encourage them, I am filled with hope and gratitude. Seeing the good and focusing on it helps me be a better person, and a better parent.
Here are some of the acts of kindness I have seen in my home lately:
- Mr 4 offered to donate his precious plastic gem stone to charity.
- My youngest says, “No, fank you” most every time he does not want something.
- Mr 2 drew a two colored scribble with some circular motions and went to show it to big brother. Mr 4 said, “Whoa that looks like a tornado AND a hurricane combined, it’s the best one I’ve ever seen, good job!”
- My oldest offered to help me with cleaning, so that I can play sooner.
- I bumped my head while leaning in to get my two-year-old out of his carseat and said, “Ouch!” He reached up, patted my hair and said, “Rub it, feel happy.” I took him out of his carseat and he gave me a big hug and said, “Cuddles, I wub you.”
- My husband has done the dishes several times – without being asked to. He also gave me an afternoon off to go get my hair cut, has watched several “Call the Midwife” episodes with me, and has given me some great head massages when I have had headaches.
In realizing how much kindness is really going around my house, my outlook is more positive and I feel my cup is more full. I can give more and therefore my kids (and husband) also benefit.
It is a work in progress, but I am happy for the positivity in this moment. Recognizing and encouraging the acts of kindness helps me be more kind, as well.
What acts of kindness have you witnessed in your home recently? Does focusing on the good help you overlook the not-so-good?
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